Friday, October 22, 2010

Love With A Bit of Caution

Lucia Sikhosana

When many friends meet what they initially think is a wonderful man who is a life partner they start going through changes which seem positive at the time. You would see them changing friends, the way they look and everything else the new man in their lives might not want.

This even leads to the woman feeling incomplete when the man is not around. It wouldn’t matter that there could be family members or the room might be filled with loving friends who are wearing the widestsmiles. These women would just feel there is something missing just because the person they have made the centre of their lives isn’t there at the time.

It’s unfortunate that many women would do anything for love even compromising all that they would know and have grown up with.

Loving and caring for someone should not mean someone should change their principles and change who they are. I agree that compromising is crucial for any relationship to work but this should be done within reason.

What I find to be a problem with many relationships is that many women get in them with fake identities. They would observe the man they are interested in from the sidelines, find out what their likes and dislikes are and then work hard to meet their criteria and get their attention. But all of that is a receipe for disaster. When doing so many women might lose a part of themselves and their personalities. They might end up becoming the people they are not only to pelase a man. Soon the truth comes out though as people cannot fake their personalities forever.

So I have come up with a list of things to do in order for women to love without losing any part of themselves.

Be yourself - a woman usually does everything in her power to make relationships last and even get rid of good friends.

Remove baggage from the past - disappointments from a previous relationship or fear being hurt should not be foundation of new love.

Love with caution - women should bear in mind that fear exists in all new experiences in life and when one goes into a new relationship they should remember that they are still to find out a lot about the new man. So while you should take that risk of falling in love, it should be done with caution.

Respect differences – Don’t expect him to like the sme things you like.

These are just a few pointers to my girlfriends, I hope some will help those who want to take risks and get into new relationships.

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