Lindiwe Maphumulo
Women
are shrinked everyday of their lives. As women, we’re made to think that
marriage is the most important goal we should aspire to. Men, on the other
hand, are told to have other dreams and ambitions like heading up organisations,
becoming presidents and making millions. When will we, as women, live a good
life without settling for less and limiting ourselves?
My
friend and I were having a discussion about this the other day. She was saying
that it would be fascinating if a woman was hit on by a guy and then declined,
but not just with a simple no but gave a thorough list of reasons of her
decision. One of the reasons she could give is that she would like to get a
career going and make her own money. My friend and I were thinking that in the
society we live in, this woman would be called a gold digger and other names
just because of her goals.
We
discussed this to a point where a man who had been eaves-dropping decided to
join in and turned it to a huge debate. He mentioned that he would have a
problem with a woman who can do things for herself, he would feel that he isn’t
needed.
